• Ashwini Shannikodi

Fitting In or Belonging in Life

"Our home is the place where you become yourself" -Picco Iyer


Last week I went out with my dear friend, we had a lovely time together. In our long conversation, she expressed how the lockdown has impacted her, how clearly she could see now the existence of subtle layers of inequality, stereotypical prejudices exist and what are her priorities in life. When she was expressing, I had this sudden rush of happiness I am very happy for her as she is awakening and started questioning, acknowledging and exploring about herself.


From her expressions what I have realised is that majority of of them get tired exhausted from being fitting in themselves in a completely different environment. That creates stress tension constantly have this internal subtle feeling that everyone is belonging here or connected here or part of one team and you aren't able to click with them. You may feel you been fitting in across workplace, family, community, with your friends and ultimately with self.


I have attempted to wear those 'fitting in' shoes, really struggled, heart ached head told to stay and try to fit it!! Everyone is constantly searching for something in life isn't it ?? I was searching for my home of belonging, I soon realised my home is my body, breathe, my being here and now where I am standing, where I am belonging. Yoga really helped me in connecting with Self. People really find happiness in life when they feel belonging. Unapologetically be yourself, don't worry about whether people, the family community will accept or reject. Take time from your daily life and reflect Are You Fitting In or Belonging?


Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection


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